Frederick and I made it home safely late last night and are still processing all of the wonderful experiences we had in New York City. I’ll post a little about our trip tomorrow, but today we need to catch up with our online Bible study, Behind the Eyes by Lisa Whittle. Check out Lelia’s blog for more thoughts on this week’s chapter: Ms. Confidence.
Hello, my friends! Today we are reflecting on an ever-elusive concept for me: confidence.
I have struggled with it all of my life. In our study questions, Lisa asks us what our personal idea of confidence is. For me, confidence is being comfortable in my skin. Not afraid of speaking up or saying what I think. Not fearing the judgment of others. Ease and contentment with where I am.
Do you know anyone like that?
They are very hard to find.
So many times we cloak ourselves in posturing, or roles we think we are supposed to play. Letting our friends see the messy parts of our lives is not an easy thing to do.
I think Lisa makes a great point on page 50, when she says, “The reality is that no matter how confident we as women want people to think we are, there are moments for all of us when the layers are not quite thick enough to keep us completely insulated. We were not made to live in a completely self-reliant state, regardless of how empowering that sounds.”
When we insulate ourselves, we are doing just that: insulating ourselves. Not only from what we would perceive as negative things, but positive things as well. Holding back on our true feelings, our fears and insecurities, gives others a false image and keeps them from coming close.
This tends to make a girl lonely. I don’t know about you, but I’ve gotta have my girlfriends.
And some of our most precious times together have been when we expose our NEED for one another.
I have not always been good at this. In fact, I learn a little more each day about how to be comfortable in this skin. Relying on God and not people has been a huge key for me.
But I still struggle. I am a naturally shy person. And my childhood was not exactly one that promoted good self-esteem. But understanding that I am esteemed by HIM has freed me in so many ways.
I’m redefining confidence in my life. I no longer look for self-confidence. I strive to root my confidence in HIM.
That’s a good self-image.