“You’ve felt it—that deep longing for people to value you, respect you… And love you. You’ve worked hard for their approval. You have wanted to make people think you’ve got it all together, but on the inside, you’re falling apart. And you’ve heard this one question ringing in your years: What will people think of me?”
That’s the first paragraph of the back cover copy of Jennifer Lee’snew-hot-off-the-press book Love Idol: Letting go of Your Need forApproval and Seeing Yourself through God’s Eyes. I’ve been slowly making my way through this one—trying to internalize this valuable lesson. And because life is never static; there is always a new challenge, new people with new gifts, a dynamic border to the comfort zone—this is a reminder I will need on a regular basis—an immunization against all those voices in my head that tell me I’m not good enough, not talented enough, not … enough.
You may know Jennifer as a storyteller and in Love Idol she does not disappoint. This former journalist packages a grace-soaked message in her own stories; stories of striving and letting go, of mother worry and joy—stories of a woman who is still figuring it out.
Just like the rest of us.
Jennifer writes from a place of vulnerability but there is strength in her voice. I have known Jennifer to be an encourager—one who celebrates the unique differences of each individual she meets. She has generous eyes, seeing others in the light of the image-bearers they are. And yet she has struggled to love herself at times.
Don’t we all?
Love Idol shares the important message that we are loved, not despite who we are but because of who we are. We are pre-approved.
One lucky commenter on this post will win a free copy of Jennifer’s new book Love Idol: Letting go of Your Need for Approval and Seeing Yourselfthrough God’s Eyes. Leave a comment by Sunday evening 3/30/14 to be entered in the drawing. I’ll announce the winner Monday morning. Good luck!