With two teenage boys under my roof, the story of recovery from porn addiction feels too scary—too real. It makes my breath catch every time I pass it sitting idle on the counter. I want to hide it in a stack of other titles.
But I know the facts. I know there are 68 million searches for pornography every day and over 70 percent of Christian men report viewing porn in the last year. And knowing this? Well, I know I can’t run from this fear. At this rate, it’s bound to catch me.
We’ve had all the filters installed, I’ve crept around checking history, I’ve even asked point blank. I’ve had this talk: blah, blah, blah—objectifying women; blah, blah—someone’s daughter; blah, blah, blah—ruin your capacity for real intimacy (yes, I actually said that to a thirteen-year-old).
The boys nod their heads and promise in earnest but I suspect that they don’t have to think too hard to know the truth of the matter: I don’t know what I’m talking about. Not really.
I mean, after all, I’ve never struggled with a compulsion to look at porn. And I have no idea what it must be like to live inside the body and look at the world through the mind of a man.
But Craig Ferguson does and he and his wife Jennifer want to use the story of his addiction and their road to recovery together to help others achieve healing too.
Pure Eyes, Clean Heart: A Couples Journey to Freedom from Pornography is a book that gives me better insights into how to talk to my boys about this sensitive subject. It’s an important book. One that will make marriages stronger and love relationships deeper.
Because I believe in this book and the message it carries, I’m giving away a copy of Jennifer and Craig’s book. Just leave me a comment for a chance to win. I’ll draw a winner on Monday, Oct. 13 and announce it in that morning’s Playdates with God post.